He was looking at porno, again,” reports a counseling client. The blue green glow of the computer made him look diseased.Phone sex, sexting, instant messaging, chat rooms, live web cams, online dating sites, online virtual worlds, exchanging photos and live videos, not to mention Skype, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter—the list goes on.Simply put, there's no end to the options for a partner who is motivated to engage in a non-physical sexual relationship without someone else outside of marriage.Cyber cheating has rapidly grown to be a leading cause for divorce over the last decade Often, these activities start out innocently enough, but before long, the friendship becomes more flirtatious and eventually morphs into a full blown online relationship that takes an spouse's already waning attention away from his or her marriage.While there are certain aspects of a physical affair, such as pregnancy and transmitting STDs, that aren't concerns with strictly emotional affairs, in all other aspects, both are considered equally devastating to relationships.On the contrary, contact that starts online routinely ends up becoming in person contact.Craftier cheaters are opting for apps like Snapchat and Cyber Dust, which cause messages to be automatically deleted just seconds after being sent.
“I think there is this bias that women don’t cheat for sexual reasons at all,” Hertlein says.The typical affair used to start in the office and move to a seedy motel room, but the vast reach of the Internet has brought infidelity into many couples’ homes over the past decade.The growth in steamy chat room conversations and cybersex also has triggered a rethinking of the meaning of infidelity. Some gave us their avatar names, while others went with pseudonyms.) Sam knew from the outset that he had no intention of ever meeting Kat in real life. (As you might imagine, some people interviewed for this story did not want to reveal their full names.