Consider the titles "Refusal on the grounds of dislike", "Refusal on the grounds of unsteadiness of the suitor", and "Refusal on the grounds that the suitor is much younger than herself".
From our experience on this Journal, and extended observation in daily life, we could build up a terrible catalogue of these difficulties, but must content ourselves with the onea leading one, howeverwhich is constantly coming under our notice.
But the second half of the century has brought with it a different type of advice manuals more focused on all-purpose household advice than social etiquette.
Still manuals such as defined the proper etiquette in all types of social situations (engagements, weddings, conversation, table manners, visiting, etc.) On the next several pages, are some of the rules (and breaches) of Victorian etiquette.
How is it that young people come to be introduced to each other?
In polygamous countries wives are bought; in France, Spain, Italy, among all the Latin races, the parents generally undertake the preliminary negotiations ; in Russia there are annual exhibitions of marriageable girlssomething like our hiring fairs, only the hiring is for lifea custom of immense antiquity in the East, as old as Babylon, as unearthed antiquities inform us; but in our politically free country our young people have to catch whom they can, in short, if not exactly left to their own devices, they are dependent a good deal on accidents, hence the rough foundation for the proverbial saying that "marriage is a lottery." In our villages there is a neighbourly familiarity which has grown up from childhood; but even in these quiet places it is rare for the chosen playfellows in infancy to mate in maturity.