Not because you want to get married and have kids – he does, too! It’s for you to get a better sense of me and whether I’m a solid catch, it’s for me to determine if we’ve got some attraction and easy conversation – and it’s for both of us to determine whether there’s enough potential to meet for a second date. When you introduce concepts like marriage, kids, religion, politics, money – trying to ensure that the person across from you is a good long-term prospect, you essentially turn from a pleasant, fun, likeable person …into The Interrogator. Doesn’t matter if The Interrogator is smart, hot, and interesting.This is a question I received on my latest survey about a dozen times, which lets me know that it’s important to you.The nervousness I’m referring to comes wanting to know what happens AFTER the first date. (I love women like this, by the way.) As she peppered me with questions, it was clear to me that she had done a lot of research. Is he going to call me tomorrow to say he wants to see me again? Early 40’s, bright, successful, and really excited about coaching and learning about the opposite sex.They suggest that if you’re serious about marriage and children, you should put that on the table from the get-go on Date 1. Like, it’s so wrong, that I can’t even fathom that my esteemed, well-intentioned colleagues would pass this off as valid advice to unsuspecting women who trust them with their lives.
Talk about whether or not going to dinner tonight fits within your budget, for example.
“The kids would talk about who was hooking up with who,” she says. “Whenever we ask kids where they get their information about sex, teens always say their #1 source is their mothers.” The problem is, you probably won’t find the perfect time to talk about it.
Ignore the Rolling Eyes and Talk to Her “The first thing mothers need to know is that they are a critical voice in their daughters’ sex education,” says Leslie Kantor, MPH, national director of education at Planned Parenthood Federation of America.
Is he in a place where he wants a long-term relationship?
It was also clear that she had her ideas formed by what she had read previously. Because while there’s a lot of good stuff out there, no one expert has all the answers.