Similarly, the Indian American community and its values are not far off from this culture.The women are expected to be, and are viewed as, virginal and sexually submissive.The night was warm and wet in the late North Carolina summer. If I’m honest with myself about the big picture, I actually think this all started before boys could even be blamed. I remember being in a hotel room with my sister and a few children of my parents’ friends, the only other Indians I knew and whom I saw maybe twice a year.I had just told her about the budding flirtation with a boy from Memphis who lived across the grassy quad. One girl in the room decided to turn the group’s attention to my facial features and how un-Indian they were: the tip of my nose was a little rounder than my sister’s; my lips were full, fat, and sat prominently on my face.It is only fair that black women know the true intent of ur actions "Having Sex With Black Girls" by Hey_Jay37 "I've pretty much had sexual relationships with every race except for black girls. t=135815139809343 #17545By JP on Monday, February 13, 2006 - pm I HAVE BEEN DATING A BLACK WOMAN WHO IS OLDER THAN ME FOR A YEAR. I am dating a sikh man now and i've dumped everyone else just for him.A buddy of mine just did one and describes it as: "Utterly amazing! What a ride." Now I've never been attracted to black women, but it got me wondering if i'm missing something. He is not so traditional and was born in the usa and he actually acts more "black" than i do which is weird.
It doesn't bother me much, but I'm wondering if there's a culture issue?
Do Indian women feel there is a negative stigma associated with all black men?
138035386 #17327By Anonymous on Tuesday, January 24, 2006 - am These are the typical comments being thrown around in the south asian/desi male community. SHE HAS HELPED ME BECAUSE WHEN I FIRST CAME TO THIS COUNTRY, LIKE MANY INDIANS I DIDN' T USE DEODORANT AND DID NOT KNOW MUCH OF THE AMERICAN WAYS OF HYGIENE OR CULTURE.
I would spy him coming back from class and get the jitters. Everyone turned to do their own individual nitpicking before agreeing that, yes, Chaya does look a little weird. Sometimes people looked “less Indian” than other people. But the others seemed to understand something about the final comment that I missed.
“You know…” she said, squinting her eyes and thinking, calculating, “You almost look black.” Everyone laughed. The way they regarded me after drawing that collective conclusion was poignant – there was mockery but also something stronger: a disdainful othering.