I often hear people discuss self-esteem like it’s something mystical and in short supply.
Fundamentally, self-esteem comes down to treating and regarding yourself as a person of value.
Focusing on activities that absorb some of your mental energy helps, too, by taking the focus off of your significant other and balancing it with other things. To kick your jealous streak to the curb, first admit that you have an unhealthy jealousy streak.
Join a book club or, at least, pick up a couple of new books each month; try an exercise or dance video online; and write in a journal about some goals you would like to achieve in the next six months. Mention to a friend or two that you are working on becoming less jealous (so that you are making a verbal contract of sorts).
You’ll be afraid that you’ll balls it up or scare them off with your ‘flaws’ that make you ‘not good enough’.
With a ‘co-pilot’ that has a reasonable level of self-esteem, you’ll initially feel bolstered by their ‘investment’ in you and then because of your beliefs and the fears, you won’t in this relationship and treat them like a driver and act like a passenger.
Personally to me, there is very few things more unattractive than low esteem and insecurity in a woman.
Maybe some men like low self esteem girls, but I hate it.
How much effort you put forth in your dating relationships may have more to say about how much you like yourself rather than how much you like your partner.
A recent study out of the UK suggests that self-esteem (or the lack thereof) may play a large role in how hard we work to maintain and enhance our relationships.