An international relationship can mean more bickering and extra time needed to settle your differences, as not starting from the same cultural footing means you often have to spend the beginning of a discussion just feeling each other out as to what you both think about the issue.▼ Even when you’re both willing to compromise, meeting in the middle is a complicated process when you’ve got the Pacific Ocean between you.At the same time, like folks in most other developed countries, Japanese people have been inundated with media from America and are avid travelers.They are equally interested in Europe, and other parts of Asia like Taiwan, Thailand and Korea.How can you tell if a girl/guy likes you in a country where ‘yes’ can mean ‘no’?Or read peoples’ emotions where pretty much no-one wears their heart on their sleeve?It is commonly believed that dating in Japan is easy for non-Asian (particularly white) men and hard for women.I came across a blog post by zoomingjapn, a German girl living in Japan, writing about dating in Japan as a foreigner. She writes, ‘It is comparably easy for a western foreign man to find a Japanese woman or to have a nice relationship here in Japan’, but ‘it is extremely tough to find a date as a foreign woman here in Japan.’ Her story is interesting in itself but the most interesting part of the article is the huge number of comments gets – 162 comments (or about 30,000 words! A lot of people who commented actually disagree with her.
However, there are many people who are successful at dating in Japan.
I think women who have those kinds of domestic ambitions are better off with a Japanese guy, since that pattern’s been the norm for Japanese couples for so long.” ▼ Could this be one reason why so many Japanese salarymen need to stop off for a drink before they arrive home?
Foreign men have a lot going against them, too, with the most obvious being the language barrier.
This is especially true during casual encounters with a Japanese person who has never dated a foreigner. Some of the common presumptions you might want to watch out for are: If you are not comfortable taking your relationship to the next step (especially in terms of physically) make that clear!
Intercultural relationships often have difficulties when it comes to communication.