While you’ve set yourself free from a destructive relationship with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder, it may be a little hard to totally detach yourself from the person.After all, they were an important part of your life for however long you were with them.What I got from the relationship was adoration, but not love and I mistakenly confused the two as the same thing for many years.I loved that she adored me, I loved being the savior, I loved having the answers, I loved giving my ex-wife the life that she never had as a child – but that was not a loving adult relationship. I would have continued in this cycle for who knows how long if she had not released me through her behavior during the separation.
I spent my whole relationship hoping my wife would “grow up” and had no understanding of BPD and its impact.
Certain aspects or common denominators are present in males who attach to Borderlines.
Generally, these are People Pleaser types, who have rescuing or fixing compulsions, self-esteem difficulties from childhood, intimacy issues, engulfment concerns, poor self-image, dysthymia (chronic/long-standing mild to moderate depression), etc.
No matter what type of treatment you need, Clearview Women’s Center can help.
With residential, day, and outpatient programs, Clearview is proud to be one of the only Borderline Personality Disorder treatment centers in the country that offers a complete continuum of care.